This type of acceptance will eventually create tensions. There will be tensions if they (or we) make life choices outside of God`s will. We feel this tension when someone we love is in a toxic friendship, has made unethical decisions at work, told us things that have turned out to be false, that treat anger in an unhealthy way or that generally live in sin. First of all, I would like to throw away the word acceptance because it has so many misunderstandings. Instead of asking if I can accept it? I prefer, can I relax with that? Or can I be like this? Or do I agree that this is currently the case? These needles feel more passable when we consider what we associate with acceptance. For the fact is that something in us will never fully accept, nor will it come in order with what we do not want, and that a part of us must also be involved in this process. Of course, we cannot always agree, but then we decide to at least accept the situation. Sooner or later, the doors will open to an agreement. You see, if you accept something someone says, do NOT tell them that you agree.
You`re just telling them that you accept that their opinion is different from yours. Acceptance is not a defeat, but then the agreement gives you the opportunity to own what you have done and think what you say! Not all stories have such an end, but if you live in the tension of acceptance and agreement with someone, listen to me about it. If I had chosen to consider acceptance and consent as synonyms, I am not sure that my parents presented their lives to Christ. If I thought there would be no difference between accepting and reconciling with my parents, we would not have a relationship today. The biggest misunderstanding about acceptance is that it means that we agree with what we accept, that we felt comfortable and that we are on board with this situation that we do not want. I think it`s a lot about accepting life so that we can see the specific meaning that we can attribute to everything and validate it before we go to problem solving. That`s what it`s all about in all your work and why it`s so unique. For me, it`s not a slight change, and I feel like it`s going to be a lifelong learning process.
And I have a strong feeling that it`s the same for my daughters and that we have something to do together. Does acceptance for you sound like resignation? How do you give up what you want and accept something you don`t want? Most of the time, you accept with some behavior, characteristic or the way it is. Because you accept that you don`t want to agree, don`t you? But then part of you is on Dericht with this behavior, this characteristic or the path! They decide to stay whole and live with it. Acceptance is only THE TRUTH in the situation. The first person who asked me about “acceptance” was my first therapist. We discussed my relationship with my father (cliché, I know), and she suggested that I accept, that I may never have the relationship with him that I would have wanted. I was horrified. My love for another person lies in my acceptance by them and not in my consent to decisions they may or may not make.